Oh to be Conscious & Aware

Y’all got to stop being so vexed on what other folks choose to represent their faith.

Open heart, discerned mind.

When you begin to evolve you realize how all these religions are all telling the same story with different players.

The point is that it’s all CONSCIOUSNESS.

Be better people that’s the only thing you should be concerned with not how folks choose to honor God/The Universe.

Mind y’all business and get your own mind, heart, and soul together.

Be better.

I’ll take it a step further because I by no means am dissing Christianity at all.

It’s not religions that are closed minded and attached for the wrong reasons, it’s Humans.

Humans are closed minded and attached.

Humans take things and use them to their own agendas.

Humans corrupt.

I see unhealthy attachments to Organized Religion as well as Spirituality.

Just because you say you’re spiritual doesn’t mean you’re truly at peace.

Especially if you refuse or don’t know how to do the shadow work necessary to free yourself of any unhealthy attachments to thoughts, patterns, habits, and beliefs that you have adapted to “survive.”

Surviving is a “lack mindset” way of life.

We need to learn how to let go and live to truly be free.

And I’ll end this little Ted Talk by saying these final two things:

1. Energy is REAL.
2. The direct connection to God is ascension through consciousness. Whether that’s through your Pineal gland, Christ, Buddha, Mohammed…. Whoever.

If you want to get through any of them you have to IDENTIFY THE TRAUMAS AND THE TRIGGERS. RELEASE AND LET GO OF THEM.

Kill off your own ego, which takes you being accountable for absolutely everything that’s happened to you in your adult life, purge, let go of any attachments, and then you will ascend.

But that’s my Ted Talk for the day.

I’m not going to respond to any comments.

I’m not against any religion. I honestly don’t think any are greater than the other and believe they all are explaining the same physiological ascension process in their own way.

And absolutely ALL OF IT is rooted in Ancient African Lore and Mysticism. But that’s a whole other conversation.

Just do what’s best for you and stop worrying about everyone else’s beliefs. As long as they are at peace I’m happy for em.

Have a great day.

Projecting vs. Constructive Criticism

Now days I wonder if folks know what tact is? You guys absolutely LOVE to overstep your boundaries with folks then out the same breath got the nerve to get an attitude when you are instantly corrected.

So many people tread the fine line of projecting on someone vs. giving someone constructive criticism, so much so, I figured I’d give you all a mini lesson on how not to venture off into the land of, “you got someone f*cked up.”

Ya’lol ready? Leggo.

If you love someone, as they are, and you are an area in their life that they could absolutely benefit a bit of improvement, I wholeheartedly believe that a little constructive criticism could go a long way!

But how do you come to them in a way that doesn’t seem like you’re being condescending but just wanting to see them take the advice that they may or may not have asked for?

Here are steps that I take when providing constructive criticism to those I hold dearly.

1. Butter their asses up.

All my REAL friends love the, “Hey bitch you know you’re the absolute shit, but girl this is how you can take your I’m the Shìt-ness to the NEXT LEVEL!”

I absolutely have to give my bestfriend Puff credit on teaching me this trick. She does this to me all the time.

Don’t be giving nobody any opinions if you aren’t hyping them up too! You got to set the tone before you go in for something that can easily go left!

Let them know that you admire something about them. No one just likes to hear the critique shit first.

2. Be direct.

I don’t like beating around the Bush. Execute directly to what the problem is immediately after the compliment. For example:

“Girl, I love you and you’re extremely talented. I believe you’re the most talented person in the World. But honey, you have to be CONSISTENT. You can not keep bullshitting. I want to see you go far in this and I believe in you. But you can’t be straddling the fence about your dreams!”

Round of applause. Absolutely beautifully executed.

Here’s an example of WHAT YOU NOT GOING TO DO!

“Girl you really need to get your shit together. You’re off and on and it’s irritating. Come on!”

Like I see nothing but frustration! And everyone can’t take that. Granted you may mean well but that delivery just ain’t it. And more than likely it’s not going to motivate them to get to where they need to be. Which leads me to number 3.

3. Don’t offer an opinion if it’s not followed up with a SOLUTION!!!!

In my Kevin Hart voice, “HELP ME…..N*GGA!!!!”

Some of us don’t see what you see and if you truly LOVE SOMEONE and want to see them thrive a couple of solutions ain’t going to hurt you!

Let me know how you would improve if you were doing what I’m doing!

My friends and I bounce ideas off of each other OFTEN! If you can’t brainstorm with your girls without feeling hints of jealousy and animosity you got the wrong friends!

HELLO!

Last but not least…..

4. DON’T BE GIVING NOBODY ANY ADVICE YOUR ASS DON’T LIVE BY DAWG!

Now granted my Mama always would tell me and my Sister don’t be like her be better! But some of you muhf*ckas don’t be on SH*T!!!! But ALWAYS got something to say NEGATIVE!

Like literally sit behind a keyboard all day just waiting to give a hating sermon on one of your friends post knowing you not doing nothing remotely like the advice you be trying to give.

The best thing you can do is start living your own truth and leave everyone else alone until you find you.

Some of you just be coming off as haters and you know maybe that’s what you are. And that’s fine. But don’t spread that pessimism on anyone else.

And hey, maybe you got friends that just can’t take constructive criticism, well maybe you need to ask yourself if that’s a friend you want around you that feels like they are ABOVE APPROACH.

I definitely don’t because I want ALL MY GIRLS TO WIN!

How Do You Deal with Narcissist?

You don’t.

How do you deal with narcissist?

I see this question so often.

You just don’t deal with them and take back your power from them.

A person can only do to you what you ALLOW them to do.

People will eventually show you who they are and out of “love” we stay in connection with folks that really aren’t worthy of our light.

We can’t fix anyone and you’ll only dim your own light trying. They got their own journey and inner work to do. Focus on your own.

At some point, we have to take awareness of OUR ROLE in our own PAIN.

This is a conversation and a realization I’ve had with myself so many times in so many areas of my life.

I don’t blame anyone for ANYTHING THAT I HAVE WENT THROUGH AT ALL.

No one will EVER have that power over me.

Everything is on me.

Every L and every W. That’s ALL me.

It gets not freer than that.

I love who the hell I am today and I’ll be even greater tomorrow.

It’s HELLA up!