Accountability goes a lot further than admitting you have done something wrong or making sure you don’t do it again.
Accountability is making sure you’re not emotionally sabotaging someone directly to them, via subliminal post, through their/your friends/family, or by blatantly shaming the other person from leaving you alone. LET IT GO.
No one has to deal with your bullshit.
Not even you.
Accountability is realizing, “hey I need help and I need to get myself together for ME.” It’s not equated towards anyone else but YOU! Get you together for you, it’ll last longer when you have had enough of you.
If you are STILL pointing fingers at what others have done to you, how others have left you, how folks don’t support you, how bad people have treated you then you, CHILD, are not focused on self-growth and accountability.
Turn that victim into VICTOR.
We CANNOT control the ways of others, when they show you who they are take it for what it is and MOVE ACCORDINGLY with that information. Don’t even acknowledge it. It’s not on you. It’s on them to figure it out. You got your own shit to figure out.
You are only in control of yourself and your OWN reactions.
Greatest lesson I’ve learned is how I don’t have to deal with nothing I don’t want to.
I don’t have to react.
I can unfriend everyone on my friends list right now and I don’t have to explain it to anyone.
We hold the weight of other’s opinions of us to close to our own hearts.
Is that really BEING?
Is that really LIVING?
Is that really FLOWING?
I know my heart. I know my intentions. I know how much I love.
If you take anything from this post know that you don’t have to prove anything to anyone. Been there done that in my lifetime. And it was a waste of time because people are going to have preconceived notions about you regardless of how hard you try to prove yourself to them. Let them think what they want to think. You focus on being YOU.
Live your life. Experience it. Your experience is going to be different from mine and everyone else’s.
Doesn’t mean I’m experiencing my life better or vice versa.
Kindness and Love does not mean you have to endure anything that doesn’t align with you.
You also don’t have to speak on it or everything you see.
I’m learning silence is golden. And disappearing acts are necessary to your growth and development.
Every day is a fucking blessing. I’m focusing more on making the most of it all.
~ End Rant ~